Prostate Massage & P-Spot Orgasm

Guys, if you’re interested in experiencing a whole new world of pleasure, it’s time to explore prostate massage. Try it on your own or with a partner, using your fingers or a toy. With an increasing number of men delving into p-spot play, there are some fantastic massagers and vibes dedicated to stimulating the prostate for mind-blowing, full-body orgasms. Let’s get started!

What is the P-Spot?

The prostate — or P-spot, as it’s often called — is a small muscular gland, around the size and shape of a walnut, that produces the seminal fluid found in ejaculate.

The prostate is located about two inches inside the rectum, between the rectum and the penis. It helps propel semen from the penis. It’s also surrounded by nerve endings that can feel oh-so-good when touched just right.

Although entering through the anus is the most direct way, you can also stimulate the prostate indirectly through the perineum, or taint – the skin that runs underneath the scrotum to the anus.

What does a prostate orgasm feel like?

P-spot orgasms are said to feel similar to penile orgasms, only more intense and felt through the entire body. By comparison, penile orgasms are associated with 4-8 pelvic contractions, while prostatic massage orgasms are associated with 12.

Not everyone ejaculates during a prostate orgasm, but some release a dribble of milky fluid from the urethra – hence the term, ‘milking the prostate’. This fluid is called prostatic fluid, which is basically ejaculate without the sperm.

How to Find the P-Spot

Before you can experience prostate pleasure, you’ll need to find it first! Located below the bladder near the rectum, the prostate is easier to find when you’re aroused because arousal triggers additional blood flow to the prostate – causing it to swell. Foreplay or masturbation beforehand will make finding the prostate easier.

If you want to try internal stimulation of the p-spot, start by inserting a well lubricated finger (your own or a partner’s) into the anus, around five to 10cm deep. Angle your finger toward the belly button, and you should feel the prostate through the rectum's front wall. Be gentle. The prostate will feel fleshier and softer than the surrounding area.

How To Give a Prostate Massage With your Fingers

Using your finger before moving onto toys is a great way to start because your finger will be smaller, and you’ll have more control. Here are three simple ways you can stimulate the prostate internally using your finger.

  1. Gently insert your lubed index finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come hither” motion toward the belly button. Repeat the motion while gradually increasing your speed as the pleasure builds.
  2. Rest the pad of your finger against the outside of the prostate and gently press as you would to ring a doorbell. Mix it up by using different pressure or holding the press for shorter and longer intervals to find what works. You can use the doorbell technique when penetrating the anus, too.
  3. Use the pad of your finger and run it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entire perimeter of the gland. Change up the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing the pleasure to build up.

Stroking the penis at the same time can take it to another level of pleasure and get you there faster.

How to Massage the Prostate with a Sex Toy

There are a wide range of toys available that are specifically designed to massage the P-spot. These can be used solo or with a partner, and many offer multiple speed and pulse settings. Some even have external attachments to stimulate the perineum, and many people prefer using toys to fingers, as they can offer deeper stimulation. If you’re using a prostate massager for the first time, play with the different settings to find your preference, and increase vibration speed as you get closer to orgasm.

Remember, as with all types of anal play, it's crucial that you use lube for maximum comfort. First, apply lubricant around the rim of the anus and then inside (you can make this part of your foreplay). Once you (or your partner) feel loosened up, apply more lube to your finger or prostate toy before insertion.

If you’re playing solo, it’s fairly easy to control pressure when using a toy. Try pressing the toy against the prostate using more or less pressure till you find your sweet spot. If you’re using a prostate massager on a partner, stay gently and communicate with them about how everything feels – building slowly until you get the amount of pressure just right.

Prostate Massage Toys to Try

Sinful offers a great range of prostate massage toys for boys. Here are three of our best-sellers.


Made from soft, body-safe silicone, our Little Turtle Silicone Prostate Massager measures 12.9cm in length and 2.5cm in diameter. Ergonomically designed for anal penetration and slightly curved to stimulate the p-spot, it features an easy-grip ringed handle and a noduled external finger to simultaneously stroke your taint during play. Being a little more slim-line that larger options, this toy is perfect for prostate massage beginners.


Looking for a p-spot massager that offers vibration stimulation? Our Black Silicone Vibrating Prostate Massager offers a thicker (3cm diameter) bead-like shaft with an insertable length of 10cm. Curved to deliver vibration directly to the prostate, while offering additional stimulation to the taint, this easy-to-use, one-button vibe is great for men of all p-spot massage experience levels.


Perfect for prostate play with a partner, our waterproof Camilla Remote Controlled Prostate Massager comes with its own handy remote. Designed to perfectly follow the shape of your body, this p-spot massager offers an insertable length of 10cm and a 3cm diameter that features gentle ribs and a more bulbous head. The wave-like base delivers external vibration to the prostate via the taint, and with 10 speeds to choose from – including one-key burst for maximum pleasure – this massager is sure to become a go-to in your regular toy rotation.